How is a sex room demonstrating a sexual growth mindset? Often, we work with those in relationships where an extra spark is needed. We obviously are not therapists but for some, all that is needed is the redesign of an unworthy room that could be preventing physical intimacy.
But is that all it is or are all these individuals taking an action toward an even better relationship? By simply having a sexual growth mindset, many relationships are set up to succeed.
Some people think that relationships need some serious elbow grease to succeed. It's not just about fate, but rather how much effort the couple is willing to put into making things work. They understand that every relationship has its ups and downs, and challenges don't necessarily mean it's doomed. Those who believe in the "relationships take work" philosophy have a growth mindset.
Studies show that people who believe relationships need effort tend to be more content with their partners. They're more forgiving of their partner's shortcomings and more likely to see conflicts as a chance to strengthen their bond. Basically they're more chill about their partner's flaws, and they see conflicts as a chance to improve the relationship.
It sounds direct but do you work on your relationship or do nothing?
According to a recent article in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships the decline of sexual interest in couples as they get more familiar with each other can be staved off by adopting a sexual growth mindset. This mindset also involves an openness to trying new things during lovemaking, helps couples to see their sexual skills as capable of improvement over time rather than fixed.
The concept of fixed versus growth mindset was first introduced by psychologist Carol Dweck, who found that students with a growth mindset generally achieved better results than those with a fixed mindset. Research shows that people who believe that relationships require effort and have ups and downs are generally more satisfied with their partners. Moreover, Cultice and colleagues found that people who perceived their partners as having a sexual growth mindset were less sensitive to sexual rejection by their partners.
So, these researchers were checking out how often couples were getting it on and how they reacted to being rejected. Turns out, if you're already getting enough action, one rejection isn't as big a deal as if you're feeling neglected. Imagine that! Basically you are so together and having sex so often that when someone isn’t in the mood it doesn’t feel like a personal attack.
Basically, the takeaway here is that good relationships need good communication and expectations that are managed well. Sometimes you might not be feeling it when your partner is making a move, but you can let them down easy by saying you're usually down but just not right now. Saying something like "not now and who knows when" is a real bummer though, so avoid that.
Why are we writing about this? Because to some, making your room more sexy might seem like a wild idea, but isn’t it a way you are taking action and demonstrating a sexual growth mindset to take your relationship to the next level?
It shows that you're willing to put in the effort to improve your sex life. By dedicating a space specifically for sex, you're creating an environment that's conducive to intimacy and pleasure. This sends a clear message to your partner that you're invested in your sex life and are committed to making it better.
Moreover, a sex room can be a great way to explore new sexual experiences and fantasies. By having a dedicated space, you can experiment with different positions, toys, and role-playing scenarios that you might not have been comfortable trying in your regular bedroom. This allows you to broaden your sexual horizons and deepen your connection with your partner.
Designing a sex room requires communication and collaboration with your partner. You'll need to discuss your desires and preferences, as well as the logistics of creating a dedicated space. This kind of open and honest communication is essential for a healthy and satisfying sex life.
Finally, a sex room can also help to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship. It's easy for sex to become routine and predictable when you've been with someone for a while. But by creating a space specifically for sex, you can inject some excitement and novelty back into your sex life. This can help to keep your relationship fresh and exciting, and prevent boredom or complacency from setting in.
You don’t have to have a massive redesign to accomplish these goals. Maybe just sex up the space you already have. This could include anything from sexy artwork or photographs to sensual fabrics and textures. You could also add some lingerie or toys as decoration, or even leave them out as a playful invitation to your partner.
A sexy room might seem like a bold move, but it can actually demonstrate a growth mindset and a commitment to improving your sex life. By creating a dedicated space for sex, you can explore new experiences, communicate openly with your partner, and keep the spark alive in your relationship. So, if you're feeling adventurous, why not give it a try?
